Familial ties.

Siblings have a strange bond.

It is not just the blood they share.

Or the fact that they are borne of one mother and wade in the same genetic pool.

There is a much deeper bond. It is the same bond that soldiers who go through war together have.

There is so much left unsaid between children who grow up in the same house.

It is not the memories of laughter or joy or the time when mother and father and everyone was happy.

No.

It is the furtive glance between a brother and a sister when dad walks in a bit late and stumbles on the tiny step from the verandah. It is an unconscious squaring of the shoulders, a taking up of invisible arms.

It is the time when di drags ma away while she is shouting and screaming and locks the bedroom door from the inside. It is a division of labour, it is the unwitting acquiescence to responsibility.

It is the brother who wraps the first bandage around slit wrists and mops up the blood, and never mentions it again. It is a few years added to the weight, it is the creation of the bond.

It is the deaths in the family. Of grandmothers and grandfathers and of the childhood as we knew it. It is the recognition of parents as mere humans, it is the shared disappointment.

It is a bond much more than mere blood.

 

 

 

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4 comments

  1. abhishekaggy · August 28, 2012

    Nice.

  2. Paritosh Joshi (@paritoshZero) · August 28, 2012

    Well said. And there’s a message in it for those of your generation who will get busy procreating in a few years time. Please don’t stop after the first. Children NEED siblings. Everyone needs “a bond much more than mere blood”. And there is no other that our human civilisation knows. Or even knows of.

  3. sajani · November 6, 2012

    Im reading your blog, and I feel like you are a twin from another mother or some such thing…( Whichever way it is said). Totally relate to so much here!!

    • redchappals · November 10, 2012

      Awesome! 😀

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